Society’s problems are magnified in times of economic distress, but solutions are often easier to find than we think. The family still has a profound impact on its members, and research shows that the simple family dinner can help solve many of these modern problems. Here are a few examples.
1. Obesity – Obese people often use food as a substitute for feeling loved. The family dinner is an opportunity to share love and communication, as well as good nutrition and emotional support. A study from the University of Minnesota shows that families who eat together consume more fruits and vegetables, a big help in weight control.
2. Risky behaviors – Teenagers who regularly eat dinner with their families are more likely to resist temptations to drink, smoke, or take drugs; these teens are almost 60% less likely to smoke cigarettes, for example. They seem to have a better-developed sense of themselves and in some way are perpetuating the values they learn at home.
3. Depression – For teens, depression is a particularly important problem; sometimes, simply the chance to interact with parents can give a young person the feeling of being less alone. Being there, consistently, over time, has the most benefit, and your teen will begin to see parents and family as trusted allies.
4. School performance – Studies on this subject show that students who eat with their family are 40% more likely to receive A’s and B’s in school, a significant finding.
5. Staying in touch – Making eye contact is essential and helps to support feelings of confidence. Taking time to put ‘eyes on’ each other is a great way to check in and see how everyone is doing. Focus on the meal and each other by unplugging from technology for a moment.
6. Communication skills – A Harvard study shows the value of family dinners in developing the ability to communicate and to think clearly. The presence of more than one adult steers dinner conversation into directions that stimulate critical thinking and develop the ability to frame ideas intelligently.
7. Stress – Everyone needs respite, relaxation, and a break from the demands of their regular day. The family dinner is a perfect opportunity for such a time ‘out of time’ for families to recharge and refresh themselves.
8. Building trust – Families often pass like ships in the night, going to jobs, schools, and activities. It takes an effort and a solid commitment to make time in everyone’s busy schedule to sit down and break bread, but the payoff comes when each family member realizes that you are all really there for each other.
9. Building teamwork – Everyone needs to feel needed. Including children in preparing meals says to them, “We need you, we need your help. You are part of us. You belong.” This message is a big part of why family dinners are so valuable.
10. Finding nourishment – More than just getting the right nutrients, being nourished includes being socialized as a member of the human family and learning how you fit in. In the simple humble scene of the family meal, you will find all the ingredients for growing new generations and deepening the human experience.
Sara Roberts is a content contributor for Just Eyewear, an eyeglasses and prescription sunglasses retailer.
